In between some of my trainings and classes I teach a class called youth fit. It’s for ages 5 and up. Boys and girls. And anyone who fits that range.
There is the cutest little girl who is very involved in gymnastics, sports and her school and lovesssss youth fit with me. She was participating, helping me teach, and very involved.
I noticed over the last couple weeks as I was getting the kids, she had stopped coming. Of course I question myself at first. Am I boring? Are my classes not good?
Then I went and talked to her. “Suzzi (to protect confidentiality), I miss you. Where have you been?” She replied, I just don’t want to come anymore. “Well, I miss you and I welcome you back anytime you’re ready.”
A couple weeks later as I was with a client she comes running up to me and hugs me with her mom. Her mom said
“I think it’s a confidence issue.”
Since Suzzi is 5 and the 11 year olds are allowed to class, she doesn’t feel like she’s as fast as them.
See, we lose our confidence when we compare ourselves to others.
Then we lose our joy.
Then we lose our passion.
My heart shattered.
“Well, Suzzi, they may be faster than you right now, but they have nothing on your push ups. We are all good at something. Do you know how great you are at push ups???
And even more importantly, they have years on you! Let them inspire you and become better! Because one day you’ll be 11 and you’ll have longer legs, more experience, and may even be faster than them. But right now, you’re 5, and you have things you are good at right now!”
And in that moment I learned, girls we often times have it hard. Societal pressure, peer pressure, the comparisons, the critical minds.
We want their speed but we don’t want their age. (11 comes with its on set of troubles that a 5 year old doesn’t have to deal with)
We want their faith but we don’t want their struggle that may have brought them to that faith.
We want their money but we don’t want their job that may bring on those stresses.
We want their body but we don’t want to deal with the possible anxiety and internal problems that may have contributed to it.
We see other things, people, businesses that are established and built from once what was nothing but on the exterior we rarely see the work, effort and story behind it. We see the product of all those things.
So today, may we find contentment right where we are at with exactly what we have. And instead of comparing, criticizing ourselves, let’s feel confident and secure about exactly where we are in our journey.
I love how Paul in the Bible stated it, he said, “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Phil 4:12-13